I would like to chat with ‘middle aged’ professional men about their midlife experiences.
The objective is to develop relevant content for the podcast and practical life enhancing resources to support men like us through their challenges.
Happy to Help? Let’s talk in Zoom and explore what the midlife challenge really entails for men.
My booking link is https://paulharvey.as.me/Midlifechat
Here’s a bit of background…
Life Will Always Deliver A Curve Ball
When my father died in 2017, I recognized that for much of his life he had endured his journey. He settled for a career that did not inspire him, he led a vicarious life through my mother and was totally lost when she died 20 years before he did. His last years, while comfortable, were unfulfilled and he became quite glum and cynical.
I am not my father, but at the time of his death I did recognize a lot of his traits in myself. I was feeling disillusioned with life and work, and was charting a similar cynical path. My solution was to reach out and find people who looked like they had answers.
Books and videos help, but there is nothing like direct communication. So in January 2018 I created a way of connecting directly with others and the Life Passion and Business Podcast was born.
The Midlife Challenge Is Real
Despite wanting to appear as though we have everything in control, the male midlife challenge is real. However, unlike women who have the obvious physical signs of menopause, men get no external warning. Midlife crisis in men often comes through a reaction an external circumstances.
My father’s death enabled me to take a good look at my life and where I was heading. It didn’t look pretty!
Crisis or Opportunity?
It can be either or both, but let’s look at the ‘shit’ bits first. There are many factors that determine our reactions to life. In middle aged men this reaction is labelled midlife crisis and often laughed about. But the pain and the experience is very real.
I was lucky I caught my descent, but many of the feelings on the list below ring true for me.
Midlife Crisis Symptoms
- Feeling unfulfilled in life.
- Intense feelings of nostalgia, chronic reminiscence about the past.
- Feelings of boredom, emptiness and meaninglessness.
- Impulsive, often rash actions.
- Dramatic changes in behaviour and appearance.
- Marital infidelity or constant thoughts about infidelity.
- Constantly comparing oneself to others, who seem happier or more fulfilled.
- Intense feelings of regret, time passing.
Better or Different?
We have all seen the stereotypes. The 50 year old buying a sports car, or trading in the wife for a younger model. These are classic reactions to the midlife realisation that things aren’t the way we wanted them to be. They are one way of following a desire to recapture lost youth or missed opportunity. However for many men the reaction is more subtle and can lead to depression or addiction.
On the positive side a healthy approach to the midlife shift can be the springboard to a second career, new hobbies or adventures. That was my journey. Looking at the above list I made some radical changes to my life and have not looked back.
As I said for me, the solution was the podcast. I am now 58 and the fittest I have ever been in my life. I have discovered that life is a quest from birth to death and we each have to make choices on what the journey will look like.
Midlife is a transition point and it is up to each of us to decide what it means and how we pass through and beyond.
Sharing What We Know
My aim is to support other men to transition midlife with awareness and ease. So I would love learn more about your experiences.
If you are in crisis, just chatting may help and our conversation could help me create the tools and resources you and others like you need.
If midlife brought you opportunity and new discoveries you might have something that could be turned into a resource for others.
There’s no selling involved in this conversation, I am just looking for ideas and insight.
Let’s talk. My booking link is: https://paulharvey.as.me/Midlifechat